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DICTIONARY (M/F/B/S)IL Mother-in-law, father-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law; a preceding S indicates a step relationship. D(H/S/D) Damn Husband, Damn Son, Damn Daughter.
While in most places it stands for dear, there usually isn't a lot of behavior deserving a sweet term of endearment in this sub. SO/OH Significant Other, Other Half LO Little One. Just type out baby. It is two letters more. F (plus acronym) Future (JustNoMIL is not responsible for any other word you choose to supply here in your mind.) BEC Someone so irritating that even normal things, such as eating crackers, annoys the shit out of you.
LC/VLC/NC Low-Contact/Very Low-Contact/No Contact, respectively. Used to describe the degree to which one has cut a certain family member out of their lives. May also include SC - Structured Contact, although this one is very rare in our sub. The Golden Child is the favorite child of the personality disordered MIL. Nothing they do is wrong, so they tend to fall in line and back up MIL.
The Scapegoat is the other child (or every other child). Everything is their fault.
Scapegoats suffer decades of all sorts of abuse. Jocasta Complex Opposite of Oedipus Complex. Named for Oedipus' mother. Often used to describe a MIL's emotionally incestuous treatment of her son. AKA covert incest.
FM Flying Monkey. A flying monkey is any person sent by MIL to gather/deliver information or generally wreak havoc. Just like the flying monkeys sent by the Wicked Witch of the West in The Wizard of Oz. Don't do any of them. Circular logic will be used to reinforce MIL's point of view. State your opinion or boundary clearly, but only once.
She heard you. DARVO Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. What a personality disordered MIL will do if you 'catch' her in a lie or confront her with her wrongdoing. You end up the bad guy.
FOO Family Of Origin The people to whom you're related by blood. A look of sour disapproval/pissiness mastered by old ladies in which their lips are pursed to resemble a cat's asshole. Grey Rock A technique to discourage overbearing MIL from taking any interest in you. You are bland, uninteresting, you lack any sort of emotions for her to manipulate. You are the grey rock. FOG Fear, Obligation, Guilt. The thick miasma of negativity that clouds your judgment in dealing with JustNOs.
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FLEAS Not an acronym, just a metaphor for a normal person picking up some disordered personality traits by proximity to a JustNO. 'If you lie down with dogs, you'll get fleas.'
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(For your FIL). (For when your SO is actually the problem). (For your other relatives).
(For JustNos you aren't related to). (For other MIL related things). (Memes & shitposting). (For your fantasies) WORDS OF WISDOM It's easier to dump a mama's boy than to divorce a mama's boy, and both of those are easier than trying to Abusers are the angler fish of humanity - they dangle a bright glowing ball of love in front of you so you don't see the teeth in the dark.
Next time they say, 'That's just how she is,' reply, 'And this is how I am. Are you putting in as much effort trying to change who she is as you are trying to change who I am?' When you're wearing rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags. You’re wishin’ too much, baby. You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughtta be. A gift is not an apology – it is a reward for accepting shitty behaviour. Sometimes the parent you wish you had isn’t the parent you do have.
The lightning rod isn’t the source of the electricity. You’re not the cause of the shit flung your way. You’re just (unluckily) the target. Trigger warning: Domestic violence. There are no happy endings here. I left off with my ex apologizing for hurting me and explaining how Giada got in his head.
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I forgave him and we went months without an incident. But the violence escalated from pushing and grabbing me to pinning me down and not letting me leave.
I couldn't leave even if I wanted to. (I was completely financially dependent on him because he had switched our finances to accounts that only he had access to. This was suggested by Giada as a way to prevent cheating.) And I didn't want to leave him. I was positive that his episodes of violence and mania would stop, that he would go back to being the man I loved. And he was always so apologetic after the violence. He often cried more than I did after and he swore he would talk to his psychiatrist about his anger and paranoia.
How could I leave when he was so distraught over what he did? What kind of woman would I be if I left the man I loved when he was struggling so much?
Besides, I wasn't cheating. If I could just find the right way to prove it, I was sure things would get better.
Giada was still very involved during this time. My ex wasn't able to work much due to his physical injuries and his mental instability. Because of the loss of income, we only had one car, which I used to go to work. Giada would drive him where he needed to go while I was working. She would frequently stay over for dinner and show up for breakfast without invitation. My ex and I argued about this.
I reminded him that he promised she wouldn't be involved in our relationship and begged him to cut her out. I could carpool to work. He eventually gave in and I started getting a ride to work with a coworker. When my ex told Giada he didn't need her to drive him around anymore, she cried. She screamed that I was tearing their family apart and that he was stupid for letting me whore around while he played 'househusband.' He ignored her. So Giada upped her game.
She called my parents to find out if I was really there on the days I said I would be. (My nmom had a heart attack during this time and I would help run errands for her and my dad.) I bitched to my ex about it, but he convinced me it wasn't a big deal if I was telling the truth. I was scared of making him angry or undoing the tentative trust we had rebuilt, so I let it go. One day, the coworker I carpooled with had to leave early to pick up her husband and child when their car broke down. I left with her and jumped into the backseat with their daughter when we picked them up.
They stopped off at McDonalds to pick up dinner. My coworker went in to get the food while I made small talk with her husband and funny faces at their daughter. When I got home, I noticed Giada's car in our driveway. I walked in the house and Giada and my ex were sitting in the living room. I can't even describe how tense the atmosphere was, but Giada seemed very pleased with herself. She smirked, said she would give us privacy, and told my ex she would go pack his things. When she went upstairs, I didn't even get a chance to talk.
He had never punched me before and I didn't see it coming before I had the wind knocked out of me. I was doubled over and trying to catch my breath while my ex ranted and raged. He screamed that he knew I was cheating and he had proof. He said his mom had followed me and my boyfriend and watched us have an 'intimate dinner.' I managed to gasp out that it was my coworker's husband and he grabbed my by the hair and pushed me onto the couch.
He held me down and called me a liar. I don't remember how I convinced him I was telling the truth, but somehow I did. I just remember crying, explaining the situation, and begging him to get off of me. When Giada came back downstairs, she had a suitcase and was talking happily about how much better off he would be at home.
She froze when she noticed that I was laying on the couch, crying, and my ex was kneeling on the floor, crying and apologizing to me. I remember vividly seeing her facial expressions change from smugness to confusion to absolute hatred when she looked at me. She dropped the suitcase and asked my ex how I managed to 'pull the wool over again.' He just shook his head and didn't even look at her. He kept crying, apologizing, and begging me to stay. Giada huffed and slammed the door behind her when she left. I got another series of texts the next day.
She said she regretted the misunderstanding but she was sure I could see how it looked. She claimed she was only trying to keep her son from getting hurt. When I let it last longer than I should have. On the flip side, you could have stayed longer, right? Another day, another week, another month, another year.you could have stayed until it killed you. But you didn't. You left when you'd hit the absolute limit that told you that you need to be done.
I understand wishing you'd left sooner. I also have situations that I really wish I'd left sooner on. Sometimes I dream about how much better off I'd be if I left sooner.
But I don't know that I'd be better off. I don't know if I'd have learned my lessons quite as well, if I hadn't gone through the things I went through. I don't know if I'd have been as good at taking care of myself and avoiding future shitty situations, if I hadn't been through what I've been through. So in the end, I left when I did, and my life is what it is, and I try to tell myself that's it's all OK. And it mostly is. My father worked for a battered women's shelter and one day told me that about 99% of the time, the women went back to their abusers.
Do NOT blame yourself for him knowing the right buttons to push; all abusers do. I am so happy for you that you are out and safe, and that you managed to get him behind bars. I know you want to kick yourself, but you should be applauding yourself.
You got out, and are not suffering anymore. You're part of the 1%.
I am so happy for you and wish you the best.